So I recently received an email from a college aquaintance that made my mouth drop. Apparently, her brother has fallen in love with a wonderful woman, and they want to get married. How lovely. Mazel Tov! One problem. He’s half Mexican-American and she’s from a conservative Korean-American family and her folks are flipping out. So sis is canvassing to find other cases in which a Korean-American married someone of another ethnicity despite parent’s wishes and “everything turned out fine.”
In my point of view, the point where someone uses “lesser breed” to refer to another human being (as this girl’s parents apparently did) happens to be the exact same point where I stop caring about their opinion on who marries whom.
The fact that the boy in question “has never been to Mexico except to go snorkeling in Cozumel, thinks Cesar Chavez is a silent film star, and speaks not one word of Spanish” really doesn’t have much bearing on the issue. He could visit Mexico on a monthly basis, immerse himself completely in Mexican culture, teach graduate level courses on Mexican nationalism, and speak Spanish, Nuahatl, and Yucatec and if he’s a nice guy who makes a good living and is nice to their daughter, then they can just shut up about what culture he comes from and whether or not he appreciates it.
Meanwhile if anyone knows a Korean-American who married outside of his or her ethnicity despite parent’s wishes and it has all turned out okay, shoot ‘em my way.
December 23rd, 2005 at 10:10 am
>> thinks Cesar Chavez is a silent film star< <
*cries*
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December 23rd, 2005 at 12:36 pm
Wouldn’t that statistic lose its validity unless you also took a poll of Korean-Am marriages that failed?
To argue the point of the marriage to those parents is to give validity to their accusations.
And who gets to decide what race, religion, etc is lower on the scale of humanity. No matter what you are there are people who think they’re better than you. There are people that wouldn’t want their child marrying a Korean-American.
Last time I checked, no one race of people had the market cornered on assholes.
Jana, whose 1st husband fit into the a-hole category and whose “mixed” heritage 2nd husband is the doll of the family
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December 14th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Good ideas, thanks for putting this on your blog.
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